Recursos

Jealousy, insecurity or lack of trust

• Calling frequently
• Accusing you of flirting with others
• Getting angry when you come back "late" from running errands or leaving the house
• Wanting to read your emails, texts
• Asking "Who are you going out with?" or "Why are you dressed up?"

Leveraging "Love"

• Saying “I love you” early in the relationship
• Pressuring you to commit
• Quickly moving in together or getting engaged
• Whirl-wind statements like "I've never felt like this with anyone else", "you’re the only one I can talk to", "no one will love you like I do"
• Having an “us against the world” mentality

Possessive, Controlling or manipulative behavior

• Making you feel guilty about your normal behaviors
• "Baby, don't you love me?"
• "If you loved me you would..."

Verbal and emotional abuse

• Name calling and put-downs, "No one will want you"
• Pointing out your past failures
• Being distant or violent then being warm and loving.
• Embarrassing you in public

Threats of violence

• Locking doors or closing windows during an argument

Breaking, striking or things

• Punching walls
• Striking hands on tables for emphasis

Physical force towards you or others

• Forceful contact
• Throwing things

Use of force for sex

• Encouraging unprotected sex to increase chances of STD’s or pregnancy
  • "if you leave me I will tell your friends and family.."
  • "who would want to be with you now"
• TMaking you feel guilty or undesirable
• Doing things that you do not consent to

Blaming you or others for problems, not taking responsibility

• Chronically unemployed, jobs "just don't work out"
• Someone is out to "get them"
• "you made me mad"
• "I can't help being angry"

Cruelty to children or animals

• Teasing children until they cry
• Punishing a child for wetting their diaper
• denying food or protection from cold

Isolating you from friends and family

• If you find yourself cancelling of “flaking out” on plans more frequently
• Saying your friends have a bad reputation
• Reminding you of their past wrongdoing

Hypersensitive

• Remarks are taken as a personal insult, claiming you hurt their feelings.

Past battering

• Abuser may claim their past partner "made them do it"
• Abuser's friends and family may tell stories of past battery