Tension building phase:
Arguing, yelling, screaming, questioning, interrogations, accusations. The victim is walking on eggshells and being very careful not to say or do something that will trigger the abuser. There is a feeling that the abuser could blow up at any moment.
Tension is released in a burst of emotional, verbal, physical or sexual abuse. This is when the abuser attacks you. This stage can last anywhere from a few minutes to days.
This is the "I am sorry stage," "I will never do it again stage." The abuser tries to make the victim stay in the relationship by apologizing or trying to shift the blame onto the victim or someone else. The abuser promises to never abuse again.
Think about your relationship; are you in any one of these stages? Are you in stage one, two or three? We can help you break the cycle of violence.