RED FLAGS Are You Being Abusive?


Are You Being Abusive? Take this short quiz to find out if you are exhibiting abusive behaviors.

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Do you frequently check up on your partner (where she/he is, who she/he is with, etc)?

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Are you jealous and/or possessive of him/her?

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Do you criticize or insult your partner?

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Have you left or threatened to leave him/her in a dangerous or unknown place?

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Have you driven too fast or recklessly specifically to frighten him/her?

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Have you kicked/hit/thrown down/shoved/strangled/thrown objects at your partner?

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Do you think your actions were prompted by your partner's behavior?

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Have you blamed your violent behavior on drinking or using drugs?

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Have you scared/intimidated your partner so that she/he is afraid to say "no" to you?

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Have you threatened to harm him/her or yourself if he/she breaks up with you?

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Do you believe you are permitted to hit your partner if he/she does or says something you don't like?

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Have you ever forced your partner to engage in sexual activities when he/she did not want to?


You might be in an abusive relationship

It doesn't appear that you are in an abusive relationship

If you have answered "yes" to any of these questions, it may be helpful to connect with our advocates through Heart Chat by texting 949-484-8440 or sending an email at heartchat@laurashouse.org.

You can also call our 24-hour hotline at 949-361-3775

You don't seem to have any indication that you are in an abusive relationship. However, if you still feel that you are, there are programs available to help you, call 949.361.3775 today!

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